We all want happiness, and we work pretty hard to make ourselves happy. One place we seek happiness is in the security of our homes. Surrounded by family, we try to find peace, contentment and joy. Often we do, but sometimes, there is conflict, dissatisfaction and sadness. Tragically, many marriages end in divorce, and it is often the children who suffer most.
We also look for happiness at work. We seek satisfaction in a job that is meaningful. Yet, how many people are unhappy with their careers, or jump from job to job at a pace that our forebears would have found dizzying? It’s all very transactional — and unsatisfying.
Or, we might look for happiness in entertainment. These days, most people seek to be entertained not in grand theaters but by staring into mobile devices. Yet, the more we stare, the more isolated we become from one another.
Hard as we work at it, happiness proves elusive. We may feel it is in our grasp, that a golden period of contentment is about to open up, only to have our projects undermined by unexpected problems or to find that our plans don’t live up to our expectations.
We might then resort to thinking that happiness is only for those who were born happy — people with an easygoing type of personality, a particular genetic makeup, or a particular balance of bodily chemicals. Yet, even many people who appear to be laid-back and content are not. Just below the surface, unhappiness lurks. A happy mask hides an inner turmoil of loneliness, anxiety or depression. Something isn’t working.
By now, you might be thinking that I’m trying to block all the on-ramps to happiness. But I’m not. I’m just winding up for the pitch. And the pitch is this: Happiness will never be ours so long as we plan for it, reach for it, scheme for it. The more we do those things, the unhappier we become. If we want happiness, let’s stop grasping for it. Instead, let’s allow happiness to find us and to hold us in its grasp.
Ultimately, the secret is to allow God to love us — to allow him to overwhelm us with his truth, goodness and beauty. Do we allow ourselves to be amazed at the generosity with which God created us, the patience he extends to us, the depth of love that prompted him to give away his only Son to redeem us? Are we grateful to the Lord who loves us like no other?
For happiness to take hold of us and to overwhelm us, we need to unplug from the many sources of ersatz happiness that we think we need, and to instead quiet our souls in the living presence of the Eucharistic Lord. Not just once in a while, but regularly. Don’t worry about what to say. All we need do is to let his love sweep over us and penetrate the secret recesses of our hearts.
Do we allow ourselves to be amazed at the generosity with which God created us, the patience he extends to us, the depth of love that prompted him to give away his only Son to redeem us?
When that happens, something else happens. Joy is never self-contained or self-referential. Rather, it radiates outward. Joy in the Lord translates into love of others and a willingness to give of ourselves just as the Lord has given himself to us.
Perhaps that’s what Blessed Michael McGivney wanted to teach us. He had a deep devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus and found in that heart a matchless depth of charity, a matchless depth of love. Finding that love and sharing it brought him joy. His joy was compounded by his life of charity. The same is true for us. Finding joy in the heart of Jesus, our happiness is only deepened as we, the family of the Knights of Columbus, reach out to the vulnerable and those in need. After all, in giving, we receive.
Let the overpowering reality of God’s love find us. Let us welcome Jesus.




