My wife, Shara, and I have been married 21 years and have six beautiful children. As Catholics, we’re called to be a holy family, and people might think that means being a perfect family. But “holy” comes from the Greek word hagios, meaning to be set apart — especially from a culture that’s increasingly at odds with our Catholic values.
As young people are leaving the Church at an alarming rate, it is important for parents to realize that it’s not the responsibility of our priests or Catholic school teachers to educate our children in the faith. Rather, I am called to be the spiritual leader of my home, and my wife, by the grace of God, is called to be the heart of our home. To put it another way, God has appointed me and my wife to imitate St. Joseph and the Blessed Mother and to help lead our family to heaven. Together, we’re called to place Jesus first in our lives and in the lives of our children.
For example, when evening comes and the table’s a mess and the kids are a wreck, we’re still going to sit down as a family and pray the rosary. If we’re traveling for sports over a weekend, we’re going to make Mass the priority, even if it means missing part of the game. Father Patrick Peyton said it best: “The family that prays together stays together.”
This also involves just trying to be present with one another — throwing our phones on the kitchen counter at 9 p.m. and actually sitting on the couch together, spending time with our children. It isn’t anything heroic; it’s just doing the little things. In my baseball career, my coaches always said that if you do the little things right, the big things take care of themselves. And in our marriage and family, we try to take care of the little things so that the big things take care of themselves.
I tell my kids all the time, I’d rather they become saints in heaven than Hall of Famers enshrined in Cooperstown who walked away from their faith because baseball — or something else — became their god. There’s no pressure on them to be great in the eyes of the world. My only desire as a father is that they be great in the eyes of our Lord.
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MIKE SWEENEY played 16 seasons in Major League Baseball and has been a member of the Knights of Columbus since 2014. He and his family live in southern California.







