We couldn’t get to the bottom of it. Working together was supposed to be hard, but not this hard. Week after week, a trivial misunderstanding, a slight overreaction or a mildly passive-aggressive comment would derail us. Suddenly, our sense of unity would be shattered. Once again, we would find ourselves losing precious hours as we worked to regain our equilibrium.
Then we heard about the “Surrender Novena” of Father Dolindo Ruotolo, one of St. Padre Pio’s spiritual advisors. Looking back, we knew our strongest seasons were when we prayed together, not just alone or with the kids. Clearly, we needed to surrender. Daily. Together.
We found the right time — after the kids are out the door but before the workday unfolds. It was in that moment that we were most prone to fall into wounded patterns — striving, controlling, trying to “make it happen” for ourselves. We knew we needed to invite the Lord into that moment.
On Day 1 of the novena, we read, “Leave the care of your affairs to me [Jesus], and everything will be peaceful. I say to you in truth that every act of true, blind, complete surrender to me produces the effect that you desire and resolves all difficult situations.” After each day’s exhortation, we prayed, “O Jesus, I surrender myself to you. Take care of everything!”
Of course, we still struggle. But with time, the novena has begun to sink roots deep into the soil of our marriage and life. And a profound peace and joy is unfolding. He takes care of everything.
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SOREN AND EVER JOHNSON have five children and are co-founders of Trinity House Community. Soren is a member of Holy Family Council 6831 in Leesburg, Va.






