Good literature is like a mirror that can reveal to us who we really are, deep down, in a spiritual sense. It shows us our virtues and our vices. It shows us who we should be and who we shouldn’t be.
One of the best mirrors of marriage in literature is The Merchant of Venice by William Shakespeare. At the beginning of the play, Bassanio is shown to be a foolish young man who has wasted his money on loose and reckless living. Now, however, he wants to marry Portia, who is not merely beautiful but also wise and virtuous.
In order to win Portia’s hand in marriage, Bassanio must pass the test of the caskets. Those who choose the gold or silver caskets want to marry for selfish reasons, motivated by pride or greed. They are not worthy to wed Portia. The one who is worthy is he who chooses the lead casket, which reminds us of the lead casket we’ll be laid in when we die. This is because marriage requires dying to oneself for the sake of one’s beloved. This is the “no greater love” Christ speaks of, in which the bridegroom lays down his life for his bride.
For as long as we are like the foolish Bassanio, who lives recklessly in pursuit of the passing pleasures of self-gratification, we will not be the bridegrooms we are called to be. To win his bride’s hand in marriage, Bassanio must become the man he is called to be.
For most of us, it takes marriage to make a man of us, which is to say that it takes a woman to make a man of us — and not just a woman, but a wife; and not just a wife, but a family. It is a delightful paradox that our children are the fathers of our own maturity.
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JOSEPH PEARCE is the author of numerous books on Catholic literary topics and a member of Msgr. Andrew K. Gwynn Council 1668 in Greenville, S.C. His website is jpearce.co.






