Parenting is a struggle between wonder and worry. It begins as you count your baby’s tiny toes — wondering at their perfection, worrying that they won’t add up to 10. It continues as children grow — wonder at their God-given talents, worry that you aren’t giving them enough to excel. In adulthood, we marvel as they flourish without us, yet worry that we failed to impart essential wisdom for a virtuous life. Thankfully, married saints and blesseds navigated this labyrinth, leaving a thread to follow.
St. Monica marveled at Augustine’s intellectual brilliance and rhetorical power, yet worried that he was using those gifts to stray from God. She prayed unceasingly and sought out people who could help him. A bishop reassured her, “It is impossible that the son of these tears should perish” (Confessions, 3.12). Her persistent prayer and trust in God helped bring about one of history’s greatest conversions.
St. Thomas More delighted in time with his children, from writing poems together to enjoying their many pets. But as he awaited execution for his defense of Catholic marriage, he worried about their perseverance in the faith. Rather than succumb to worry, he turned to letter-writing, and his good humor endured. The wit and wisdom of his letters to his wife and children strengthened them against despair over his death.
Blessed Luigi and Maria Beltrame Quattrocchi, whose Nov. 25 feast day marks their wedding anniversary, also knew the tension of wonder and worry. During her fourth pregnancy, Maria developed placenta previa and was given only a 5% chance of survival. Refusing the suggested abortion, Maria and Luigi continued what their family did best: trustful prayer. As their son Father Paolino reported, “No matter the issues facing us, they always resolved it by saying that it had to be appealed ‘to the heavens.’” Both mother and baby survived.
These saints and blesseds show how trust can overcome worry. They embraced the wonder, trusting that God knew, cared for and could do more for their children than they could. With this faith, they pursued their children’s good in simple ways. May we embrace the wonder and do likewise! Sts. Monica and Thomas More and Blessed Luigi and Maria Beltrame Quattrocchi, pray for us!
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KENT AND CAITLIN LASNOSKI have 11 children and are the authors of 30 Days With Married Saints (Pauline Books & Media, 2021). Kent is president of San Damiano College for the Trades in Springfield, Ill., and a member of Father Martin Kennedy Council 5447 in Lander, Wyo.








