A number of years ago, my wife, Shara, our two young children and I attended an Advent penance service at our home parish. Beside me, my 9-year-old niece held a laminated examination of conscience. Pointing to one of the listed sins, she innocently asked, “Uncle Mike, what does ‘contraception’ mean?”
I gently told her that was something her parents could explain later. But her question stayed with me. Although Shara and I had made a promise of purity on our first date and kept it until our wedding night, we had never been properly formed in the Church’s beautiful teachings on marriage and sexuality.
Driving home, I told Shara that I had confessed something I hadn’t even known I needed to. It turned out she had the same realization. Through the grace of confession, God opened our hearts to a deeper understanding of marriage.
Our penance was not simply a litany of prayers but a roadmap to a treasure. We enrolled in Natural Family Planning classes, and what began as our penance became one of the greatest gifts God gave our marriage.
There were certainly challenges — traveling with the team during “green days” and being home during “red days” required sacrifice, communication and trust. But for us, NFP became Navigating Faithfully with Prayer.
Through God’s grace, I began to see Shara’s beauty not merely through my own desires but with a new vision, magnified through the lens of the Church. Our marriage was renewed as we began to experience Christ’s promise of life in abundance (Jn 10:10).
We thought we were going to an Advent penance service to prepare a manger in our hearts. Instead, God used that experience to deepen our understanding of marriage — and our openness to his gift of life.
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MIKE SWEENEY, a five-time Major League Baseball All-Star and member of the Kansas City Royals Hall of Fame, has been a Knight of Columbus since 2014. He and his family live in Southern California.








